I thought i was coming back…
But apperantly it takes a lot more than i first thought.
NOT a very exciting week i’m afraid. Been drunk – check. Been looking at girls with desire – check. Been talking to strangers – not really. So… Where do i even begin?
Oh well. Will keep it short an simple. Am kind of depressed as of late – a lot of worries around work and all that makes it hard to actually enjoy life. So going out have been more about getting wasted to forget rather than going to bars to meet girls. Plus. The American girl i have been seeing for FAR too long have been annoying lately. One girl did put the right frame to it the other night – She’s been trying to subscribe to me… She recently explained she’s in love with her ex and dealing with realizing she can never have him (oh. just found out tonight that he actually do drugs, which kind of make her a lot less appealing. and yeah. we’re not talking pot here…), i’ve been fine with this cos i still got to sleep with her a lot. And i haven’t really been after a relationship – just kicks. But lately she has also acted like i want her more than she wants me – which is not true at all – cos she’s jealous ALL the time and make a lot of fuzz about me going places where there’ll be girls. She’s even caused a scene in a work-related enviroment where one girl was hitting on me massively. Anyway. She’s always calling and texting when i’m out to make sure i’m not going home w/ anyone – but at the same time she’s not really wanting me to go home with her either. So very annoying and confusing. To make a long story short. This random girl just puts this “subscribing” idea into my head and it make total fucking sense. I call her on it and tell her off and just let her know that i don’t appreciate that kind of thing. So now it’s all blown up and yeah. Basically i will not go home with her again. I think.
Feels kind of sad, cos she’s a really good lay, she’s funny and cool – but. I can’t do with the drama right now – and whatmore – she’s leaving Sweden after summer and won’t be here much until then anyway – so what’s the point? I’ve already wasted almost four months of endless hook-ups and i slowed down my progress massively. I was just getting a lot better fast when i met her. Oh well. Beginnersmistake i guess. But yeah. She’s the best sex i’ve had and also a lot prettier than say – my exes. It’s easy to be blinded by that and figure i could just get the most out of it while it lasted – so the separation anxiety from that kind of safety is somewhat annoying.
Oh well… You live and learn!
I’m back. At least for now.
Ok. Here’s the scoop. I’ve kind of gotten tired of this thing really fast. It was fun for a few weeks, especially when i thought i had the money to spend all weekend in expensive bars without it ever getting back to me. Since i met HBAmerican end of January – and we started dating I’ve kind of been too busy or too broke or hooking up w/ her.
And i must admit, it’s been nice. She’s away for a few weeks on work-related travel and after that i won’t see her much more either. So it’s kind of time to get back on top of things instead of opting for the easy way out. I was never planning on taking this up again, but after a chat w/ a friend from the north yesterday i kind of got psyched again. So thanks V. Hopefully i can add some new Field reports as we go.
Nervous little coward.
Ok. This girl I’ve been seing two week-ends in a row (fri+sat+sun’s) and I got involved in a discussion friday night when a little drunk, but just after having sex… I cannot remember how it started but anyway. Thing is, she said she’d want to pick up another girl with me when being out partying, bring her home for a threesome… Thing is i think i’m way to much of an AFC to go through w/ it. Plus i doubt that she’s really serious… Anyway. This got me completely nervous, which sucks. I shouldn’t doubt it I should probably just make it happen, but still… wtf?!. I’m equally scared to bits as i’m excited. But the scared chicken shit little AFC in me keeps sitting on my shoulder giving me nervous jitters about it. Hope the window goes away so I don’t have to think about it…
Approach Machine
Woh. This past week-end was rough. Out three days in a row. But can’t wait for this upcoming one.
Thursday i opened a 4-set and ejected nicely. Re-opened and then left it as it where. Could’ve followed up on the friday through going to the same place as they where headed, but decided not too cos i was too hung-over. Got quite drunk and felt i’d better not try any serious gaming.
Friday at first i didn’t want to go out. But at 6pm i just had too. Joined J for friday after-work beer as always. We did our usual friday-round and HBAmerican joined up at the last place. I had opened a seated 6-set of girls who where seated next to us. They where young, very young. But two of them had a lot of potential. Got looks from several others, but didn’t feel like gaming too much. I was too tired. But then when the American cutie joined us i again disqualified my interest in the cutest one of them through saying i didn’t trust her at all to save me my seat – so told her friend to watch my seat instead… Got a bitch-look from her and laughed at her. Since AMCutie couldn’t keep her hands off of me we where soon making out. When i got breathers from AMCutie i saw that the young HB from before had changed places and where staring right at me. So i kind of gave her a look back. Later when she left she was eyeing my up like mad. Nice. AmCutie def. worked as DHV. She’s def hot enough for that. Went home w/ her didn’t get much sleep.
Saturday i was late for the pre-party but quickly recovered. Arriving at the venue i was piss-drunk. As always when going out with that group of friends compared to when just me and J go out to sarge… Appearantly i was an approach machine all night. High five:ing all the guys in the club, dancing like mad and i basically opened every girl in the place. Some of them bought me drinks. 5mins after i arrived i opened the hottest girl there and ejected nicely before going bad. Did ignore her UG friend though so i disq. my game right away. Too drunk for proper game:ing cos i can’t remember any of it now… But my friends have filled me in. Ended up w/ AmCutie again, she took care of my drunk ass and i stayed w/ her all day Sunday.
My goal is to set AmCutie up for my first non-exclusive LTR. Think i might flake on making it happen though. Cos i don’t want a regular LTR and don’t know exactly how to make sure she knows it’s non-exclusive. Though i’ve kind of already from the start w/ her have made it clear i see a fair amount of women at the same time. She’s been in open LTRs before and def. had the use of it herself, but they where living in different continents then… Not quite the same as living almost next door. /Yeapp. We live very very close./
She’s away this week but promised to cook her food for a late Valentine’s date on friday. It will be nice. Saturday is going to be partying w/ friends again. Must make sure not to get as drunk again. Good to know i wasn’t just wasted like most guys sitting in a corner or hitting openly on girls. I just approached, and ejected. Time and time again. Any set. Girls/guys, just guys, just girls. Anything. And appearantly with great success. That i need to try and keep up even when not completely plastered. It’ll be though.
Now it’s time to sleep. I will try to get better at keeping this blog updated. For the few of you who actually know of it and read it… Peace. and happy Valentine’s.
Just some thoughts on phone game…
I just read Style’s Stylelife Challenge Phone Teqnique pdf and must say the man point out some good stuff… But i don’t agree on everything.
He says to wait as long as possible – and i do agree to some extent. An HB9-10 i’d definately wait a week if i thought they’d still remember me. Style points out it has definately got to do with two key factors – how well you planted your conversation with her and also how good her self esteem is. True true.
However in my own experience a quick good-night text or “i had fun tonight. good night” before she falls asleep the same night can be very very effective… I wouldn’t call the same night though.
Any PUA would tell you to work towards setting up a day2 on the first call. Preferably ask her to see you later the same week. I have just found out i use the same teqnique as David D’Angelo teaches (at least according to Style’s pdf) – which is: when the subject of meeting comes up – fire away at stating what days you’re not able to make it to demonstrate, among other things, that you’re really busy… also you should be the one suggesting what day of the ones that you haven’t mentioned you’re busy on – to keep control of the direction. You always have to calibrate after what type of girl you’re talking w/ when it comes to what type of plans to make. But sometimes giving her two options are good. If she says she’s too busy Style suggests to tell her to break off some of her other plans because you are “more fun”.
Never, under any circumstances, introduce yourself at the start of the convo. Normal mannerism that you’ve learned tend to fuck this up from time to time – but reeeesist the feeling of wanting to start with “hey it’s XXXX” – assume she’ll know who she’s talking too – but do bait her by refering to the connection you had earlier through something relevant to the conversation. I kind of also use this from time to time at work – because it makes you in control of the conversation right of the bat… (depending on who you’re talking too or what you do for work o-course…)
Style warns though that an initial text can be seen as a token of lower value and self esteem – on this i do agree if it is done the wrong way. A same-night good night or so, i feel, will elude this auto DLVing.
More AFC thinking…
HBAmerican have texted me all day. She’s calling me tomorrow to set up the day4.
She’s kind of growing quite fast on me. Luckily (?!?) she’ll be gone from here sooner, rather than later (don’t know if i like that really)… and until then she’ll be a likely open relationship, she’s had them before she told me – though… i think she’s kind of falling for me. I am so far from wanting a LTR right now, if it’s not open i.e., but still!… she just digs straight through some weak spots of mine… and i hate the feeling that i want to see her. Mentally i’m probably not strong enough for this kind of ‘powers’ yet… haha. But i’ll get there… i’ll get there. No need to worry. I’ve also made it perfectly clear for her that i don’t want a relationship for ages… but if she gets to me – she knows that’s just words w/o much meaning… Damn – I’m getting depressed over the fact that i like a girl that likes me. Now THAT’S a first!
All i need right now is to get stoned and fall alseep… Fast asleep.
Not much to put in the Christmas tree…
Not much to report lately… Sorry for the lack of updates.
Have a day4 with the cute american girl on wednesday. She called me when i was on my way home saturday night so i joined her after two girlless nights out. At least not where we went. Me and J had fun, but there wheren’t any hot prospects out partying this week-end. We where on our way to leave when the HBwhennaked w/ friend arrived there – made sure to leave shortly after… Saturday we joined a girl from J’s work at AG, but all her friends where UG’s. Friday two UG’s opened us. I ejected as soon as i could after building some rapport. Saw it as a chance to practise. But the rest of the night was dry, dry, dry from any HB’s. Fun week-end out, but yeah. “Not much to put in the Christmas tree” as we Swedes say…
Sex w/ cute american was hot though. Kept at it all night. She said she had never done an all-nighter before. Points for the Swede. We slept for maybe a max of 2hrs in total. It was nice. She got major Good Girl points for giving great head… which i had to tell her – offcourse. Think i have a contender for the title ‘best in town’ there J… hahaha.
Day2 setup.
On sunday morning I woke up early feeling like shit. Been drinking for four days straight
and did not want to move cos i thought something would break.
Get a phonecall around 4. A, the HBwhennaked tells me she’s in my area and wants to come by – i.e. sex. I don’t really feel like it but tell her sure. I started feeling like shit afterwards (hungover like mad) and she leaves after some toasts and cuddle.
Get a text from HBAmerican and do a lay-up for a day2. Gave her two options. A) cheap beer somewhere B) i cook.
She replied w/ “you cook? impressive. i don’t. how about a compromise? You cook and i will bring the beer.” My type of gal! Stay out of the kitchen and bring me a beer!!! =) Promised to call tomorrow (tuesday) to set up the when and what’s. (I.e. need to check if she eats what i’m planning. and what day…)
Now it’s monday and i’m dead dead tired. But going out again tonight for a show where this HBsouthsweden will be. She sorta got me psyched in going. She’s visiting Stockholm for the week-end so i gotta make an effort… And man is she beautiful. Will move her to the VIP area just to DHV. And the venue is mad social proof on it’s own.
Field report. Jan 26th/27th
So. An eventful week-end coming towards an end. It has been a blast. So this week will be tackled w/ newfound energy.
Friday
Me, J & L went to a housewarming party at this collegue of L’s. She, F, had lured L there with the pretence that there was going to be lots of single girls there. We figured it was worth a shot. Lo and behold when we arrived there was only her, a weird dude with a very cool name and two ugs. We had been drinking at J’s (as always) before we left but the cold and long walk made us almost sober again. So it was off to a very slow start. A few more arrived and J ate all the candy. Almost.
I disq. F right away w/o even meaning to early on for the music. It turned into this whole thing where she forced me to look through all their records to pick out something ok. Found a few good ones and made a point about letting her get credit for it… From that and on she always kind of ended up quite close to me though, and there where def. some light kino. A lot of fluff, drinking and some games later me and J where sitting in the sofa talking. Acting like we owned the place. Cos we did. EEEVERYbody was paying attention to what we did or said. Or at least it felt like it. I had my arm around J w/ the hand sticking out on the other side. She sat down on that side of J and started stroking my arm. so i kino:ed back. touching her fingers. And before i knew it she was holding my hand! (At this point i was thinking “WTF?!?! she does have a boyfriend… hmm. this is weird.”) J stood up to go to the bathroom (if i remember events correctly) so she slid in on my to sit closer. I kind of just went for it, leaning in and we kissed, i had had PLENTY of IOI’s by now. So it wasn’t really hard. J got back and announced he was leaving. I told her i had to go, but she wouldn’t let me. I knew it was ON. A little later back in the sofa kino’ing, but when i was leaning in for a kiss she lamely said “i have a boyfriend…” i paused and moved my gaze from her eyes to her mouth and then back again and without a word then just proceeded like she hadn’t said a word. No resistance whatsoever. In the middle of it though her boyfriends pals called her up to say they where arriving in 5mins. So she said we had to stop, then before i knew it her friends had forced her to go to bed to sleep so me and L left.
J took some of the glory away from me last night though, saying she fondled his arm too. But hey. I did get some kissing out of it and my tactics worked quite well i think. And also it was a good testrun for the black nails on my right hand. First try. Massive success. It upps my edge quite a bit.
Saturday
Tired after the long stretch of drinking the night before Saturday started off slooooowly. But once i got over the nausea the first few drinks. It was a blast. In the end we where a lot of guys heading for Teatron around 10.30. It’s a whole lot of pressure going out with a BUNCH of dudes when they’ve by now probably started to get sick of us always talking about sarging. Hahaha. Sort of felt the expectations pile up, but it’s also my own fault cos not being able to shut up, being a cheeky bastard coming off as a total ass. We arrive and the place is dead – just like we expected. Last weekend it was dead – but w/ some nice small sets of girls. This time – ONLY guys. Damnit. We got scared there for a while. We sat there talking for a while letting the place fill up. J, his brother and me took position on the dancefloor w/ some drinks just to be seen by as many as possible. And since all our friends kept passing by social proofing was at a high, though being there w/ just dudes took the edge off a bit – but damn we where MANY. Once the place was full we circled a few times. Danced and had a great time. I just felt the neeeed to open someone sometime soon. But my AA and the louder and louder enviroment would soon render me completely lost.
Then i saw this really cute girl looking lost and not that into being there, had seen her earlier looking at me so i figured why the hell not. I danced my way through the crowd for a better position and then when she didn’t see it coming i pulled her onto the dancefloor saying “hey. it’s more fun if you dance!”. she didn’t speak swedish so i had to repeat in english. it tarnished the opener a bit, but. hey!… told her i work as a lighter fluid refiller (just to have said it ONCE! and then slagged her off for talking about work.) some fluff and comfort and then kclose. danced a bit more and then tried to venue change. no go. but we moved to a little more quiet area and talked a bit more. We where leaving and i went to say bye to my friends – and J told me they where open until 5am instead of 3 as usual. I told her that so we stayed dancing and kissing a bit more, and she was also stroking me through my jeans a lot /veeery frustrating/ – she bought me a beer then we left 30mins later or so. She lived in my direction so walked her home, but didn’t want to push for a fclose. I kinda liked her so rather set up a day2 instead of another ONS. It was nice. Didn’t really want to end the night, but had to. Good&fun convo, talked about sex, threesomes and lesbian porn (why guys seem to be so into it…). HAHAHA. She asked if i had ever been w/ an american women. I could honestly say i hadn’t. But i’m guessing that streak will end soon. Followed Sinn’s advice and texted her a good night msg before going to sleep.
So girls number 4 and 5 of 2007 added to the books.
Hmm. What is SO different from the last 25 years? This is INSANE… but sanity seems to be overrated if it’s like this on the other side…Good times!
MySpace disq.
Ok. Here’s the dealio.
I know myspace-game suuucks. Trust me. I’m getting opened by 16yr old asian, polish or croatian girls EVERY fucking day.
Anyway. Out of the blue this 9+ asian lingerie model adds me randomly (i know it’s not JUST another random add cos she didn’t have that many friends as friendcollectors have… Trust me. My band gets tonnes of req. from bands or myspacewhores each day. I love hitting the mass-”NO” button.) She’s also a painter and a creative person in general. But w/ terrible taste in music – which i’d soon find to be my way IN.
WHY i wanted to post about this is partly as advice. Partly just to get some feedback (and cheers) and partly cos i’m way excited cos it’s my first proper myspace-gaming experience where i’ve initiated it – even though it wasn’t a proper cold approach.
Anywho. I replied w/ a
“You seem like an interesting girl – but Dave Matthews?!?!??”
(she had listed him and some other crap in her fav. music section)
she answered w/ a “what you don’t like him?”
and then i pushed the disq. a bit further saying “I stopped listening to him yeeears ago.”.
And as on cue she started qualifying herself to me by suggesting other artists that i might approve of instead… I let her feel she was getting somewhat closer. She then hinted for me to ask for her email or something through saying
- “Can’t you send me some stuff you like so i can understand your taste better…”
I just sent her a list of stuff to check out for herself instead as a myspace comment. Impersonal as fuck, deliberately. Then she straight out asked for my contact details instead… And voilá! I’m in… I don’t care how it goes furtheron. But it was fun to see that it actually worked.
Again. It’s fucking foolproof to get the girls qualifying to you showing a clear and simple disqualifier from the start. This have been proven and overproven time and time again.
Now a music-related one works perfect for me cos i can talk about it for hours and hours and hours. Maybe not the best way to start off if you youself lists band like U2, Pearl Jam or Coldplay in your top 10… 
